It is surprising but it is the reality, this will really connect with the part of you that can hear reason.
Usually, partners go into anger and aggressiveness (or worse, pity) towards their spouse as a distancing move and part of separating from the distressing situation.They will dig their heels in insisting that the marriage is over, and this may prompt another wave of fear and you to chase even more. In fact, if you keep pushing your husband or wife, you will be driving them right out the door. But this fearful, scared, vulnerable part of you is making the wrong decisions and making you appear completely desperate and unwelcoming.Of course, you need to honor the fragile part of you that is in pain and wants to cling on.Now, if your relationship has had the trauma of a full blown sexual affair or emotional infidelity, you are competing with not only the fantasy of an ideal life without problems but a person that is in the opposite space of distressed.Hard to hear, but reality hurts and I say this to the part of you who knows how to pick yourself up after a fall and dust yourself off. Of course, it may seem like I am suggesting an impossibility – get happy, be strong, get back into life, and develop your confidence. Or the hurt, scared or angry part getting all the air time?