Borderline personality disorder dating
It's as if this person has ripped the scabs off old ego injuries from childhood or adolescence you've worked really hard to surmount.
You've been pretty successful putting all that behind you up until now, which triggers shameful feelings and recrimination about how you could have allowed yourself to get into this position.
This malicious virus screws with your PC's functions and programs, to where you can barely navigate--and ultimately crashes your hard drive.
This is literally what happens to your mind, body and spirit when you've had exposure to the Borderline's toxicity for from childhood abandonment issues, is being stirred up right now.
Unfortunately, you've become the scapegoat for their unresolved rage left over from childhood.
venture out during one of your separations and date another, is tantamount to provoking a ten point earthquake on the Richter Scale!
They'll continually make disparaging comments about your kids, your favorite uncle, your best buddy, etc., that cannot but fire you up!
They do this, in effort to cull you from the herd so to speak, and exercise more power over you.
People have told me that they just want to return to the 'good life' they had before they met their Borderline.
A borderline disordered individual is like a computer virus that starts out as benign or innocuous, and then damages your entire system.
Internet worms can show up in a harmless email, but when you open it, you're infected.
Don't presume they're telling the truth about their sexual history or health.
You may want to believe it when he/she says they're "clean," or just got an aids test--but in reality, they're used to lying, and embellishing/fabricating facts to get what they want, and you honestly can't know who you're dealing with, when you've started dating. A former female friend years ago, had an affair with a successful (married) director.